Review: Is Everyone Hanging out Without Me? by Mindy Kaling

24th October 2013

pg1*I bought this book.

What can I say? The Mindy Project absolutely makes me laugh.

This book? I laughed so much just in her intro, I knew I had to buy it. Plus, it’s eminently quotable.

Mindy (I can totally call her that because we’re bffs now, so deal) breaks her book up into a look at her childhood, life in New York, Hollywood, romance, and body image. It’s more structured than Tina Fey’s Bossypants, but it also has an interesting generational difference. Sure, Kaling relates stories of photo shoots and sample size dresses designed to fit no one. But she also doesn’t quite have the roadblocks Fey seems to have. Reading these two books back to back, particularly knowing the age difference here isn’t all that much, made for a great look at women in comedy. Both address the ridiculous “women can’t be funny” in anticipated humorous ways. Yet there is an awareness in Kaling’s book, a liberation of sorts, that wasn’t apparent in Bossypants. In a sense, Mindy is able to worry about everyone hanging out without her whereas Tina Fey was scrambling to even get in the door.

I do think Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? is better written, and though the writing is simple, the timing of the humor as well as the arc of each essay is really excellent.

And I can’t leave you without hints of the humor:

Is this one of those guide books celebrities write for girls?

Oh, hell no. I’m only marginally qualified to be giving advice at all. My body mass index is certainly not ideal, I frequently use my debit card to buy things that cost less than three dollars, because I never have cash on me, and my bedroom is so untidy it looks like vandals ransacked the Anthropologie Sale section. I’m kind of a mess.


Unlike other athletes, Frisbee people won’t let it go. My theory is that this is because there’s a huge overlap between people who are good at Frisbee and people who do Teach for America. The same instinct to make at-risk kids learn, which I admire so much, becomes deadly when turned on friends trying to relax on a Sunday afternoon in the park….I don’t want to learn! I don’t want to learn! Let me read Shopaholic Runs for Congress in peace!



This is a fair number of times to hang out with your boyfriend and withhold judgment.


I get it. You get it. We take forever getting off the phone anyway. This was a blessing.


I’ll wait while you add this to your Goodreads shelf.

  • This one has been on my TBR since it was released. I think it’s about time I finally read it! 🙂

    • It is so so fun! I guarantee you’ll laugh in the first page alone. 🙂

  • Words for Worms

    When I finished reading this one, I really wanted to invite Mindy Kaling over for a slumber party.

    • Words for Worms

      Which I mean in a fun silly watching movies in pajamas way, not in a creepy way. My GOD, Katie. Who allowed you internet access?!

      • Hahahaha! That is awesome. But yes! I totally felt the same way. You know she’s just so much fun to hang out with.

    • AMAZING. And she has a blog?! What what?! (Ok, sorry, I’m totally finished.)

      Anyway, yes. She’s hilarious, and I love her.

  • I have been meaning to get this book for ages, so glad you’ve done this book, it’s reminded me. You’ve further convinced me I need to read it.

    • You should! It’s the perfect quick, funny read.

  • alexia561

    Mindy is so funny, so glad to hear that her book is just as good!

    • It really is!

  • Meg-A Bookish Affair

    I love The Mindy Project as well and I have a copy of this book but I still need to read it!!!

    • READ IT! If you love the show, you’ll love the book.

  • S.G. Wright

    She seems very funny. I liked her on The Office! So I should read this

    • She’s such a small part in The Office. I couldn’t believe when I first found out she was one of the writers.

  • And your review made me go look up the audiobook–only 4 hours!! That’s like a dream for my current state of never much time to listen. I haven’t watched The Mindy Project but I keep hearing nothing but good things about the show (and this book). Off to get the audio…!

    • Yea! Check it out for sure. Of course, you may have to stifle some laughs while you’re holding the babe. 🙂